Time is a great healer.

I was recently having a conversation with a friend on the subject of a blog that she wrote. She used a broken vase as a metaphoric representative object to describe that of a fractured life. Her blog went into detail about how a vase that had been broken and glued back together still had missing, tiny little pieces, which in turn made that the vase was no longer the same original one. However, even though this vase was now structurally weak, it once again stood still. For the reason that even though it is now weak, it still has a role of being beautiful. She later explained to me that it was about the fulfillment of a person’s role. Even as the vase is broken, or even when a person is fractured, they all still have purposes and expectations to deliver.

She brilliantly wrote the passage beautifully. Once she explained it to me in detail, I understood clearly of what she was speaking.

I started asking her questions about her entry, such as: if you are comparing the broken vase to that of the life of an emotionally distressed person, why would the vase be weaker then before. She in turned asked me if a vase could be unbroken. It is obvious that a vase cannot be unbroken, and that it cannot be the perfect original vase it once was. However, I didn’t feel that the vase was the best representative object to describe that of the life of a fractured person. As much as you could try to compare the two, there are very unmistakable differences.

A broken bone can be fixed. A heart can recover from a lovers ache. Hair will grow back. Wounds will heal.

Nonetheless, can mental wounds heal. She asked, what about soldiers who never forget the horrors of war. Can they be fixed?

Ignoring the fact that they can now surgically remove the part of the brain that would make you lose the memories of those you wish to forget; I believe that someone who has gone through a lot of painful events, and that has a lot of mental anguish, can be healed.

Of course it’s not an overnight deal. They definitely have to be willing to be healed. They first have to accept that the events which they took place in, are real, and, as easy as it may sound, they have to accept this.

Memories should not be suppressed. Especially those which an individual find are unpleasant. Whatever happened to them, to make them tormented, was awful. People often feel responsible in owing these individuals sympathy and pity. Trust these words: they do not need your sympathy; they have had their share full of it. They do not need to be pitied. They need understanding, and guidance on healing themselves over time.

We all owe it to ourselves to be happy. To forget the burdens of our souls and focus on the good there was and that is still to come for us. That being said, we cannot blind ourselves from the apparent truths of this world. We cannot defend ourselves from past or from future events that we know are going to happen.

We need only to realize that within ourselves is the radiant beauty to heal, the magnificent power to overcome, and the laughter to relive.