It takes two to tango.

Why does the negative aspect to things always claim superiority over the positive one?

Even when the positive state is immensely in the lead, one negative comment can immediately plunge the person’s emotions right back in the hole. Sometimes, even further down then where they ever were to begin with.

Often, people rely on me for moral support. I am comfortable with that. I am thrilled that they view me as capable and intellectual enough to provide them with significantly suitable advice to fulfill their curiosities.

On the other hand, there is my best friend who, in all good intension, views me some wonderful, flawless being, and because of that, He wants to or rather he think that he has to better himself…for me.

For me?!?! Ugh.

He has this perception that I’m at a level he isn't at, and because of this he feels he must better himself to be able to amount to my standard.

What is that?

I really don’t understand were he took the idea that I’m some perfect, shallow person who won’t let you near me if you don’t possess certain qualities. Because I’m not, I’m not vain, and I would never think that of myself. Even more so, he does possess the qualities he mentions in me that he would like to achieve. He’s just blinded by all the negative that anyone has ever told him. He doesn’t want to see the potential good in himself. He can’t and won’t be able to see it until he realizes that He’s this beautiful person that has all this wonderful, exceptional, amazing beauty of the soul.

I try to liberate that blindness from his perception so that he too can see this person, this truly magnificent person, that I see and that I love.

You’d be astounded at how slow it is to build up someone’s self confidence. But, it does build up, gradually; they’ll begin to see themselves in this day, and not the person that was ridiculed years ago. The outcome is beautiful. Confidence is a strikingly radiant effect on ones soul. Once it surfaces, happiness then follows.

And so, now this person has new self confidence.

But now, wait, someone new, or someone from their past, will see this new confidence and either:
a) See it as a threat.
b) Be jealous of it.
c) They to, like they viewed me, make them their motivation to better themselves.

Option C hardly ever happens. A & B, all the time. These people will insult Him. They will make up lies and say terrible things to him.

Once this happens, even though he knows what this person is saying isn’t true, will become emotionally distressed. Depressed. For the reason that they were once victims of the ridicule and verbal abuse, they are easily thrown back into the well of depression.

This, however, does never intimidate me. I love the people who matter most to me, I will not let them suffer from negativity others are out to show them. Thus, I will prevail in my doings to re-appreciate themselves.

I just hate the fact that, in all the positive you show them, and you make them see in themselves, they’ll still be thrown off by a few insignificant comments someone, who they don’t care about, says to them.